If you’ve found yourself snapping more easily, feeling constantly overstimulated, or wondering why you feel so angry all the time after becoming a mom — you are not alone.

And no, it does not make you a bad mother.

One of the hardest things about maternal mental health is how often moms are expected to keep functioning no matter how overwhelmed they actually feel. You’re still supposed to show up, care for everyone else, manage the mental load, regulate your emotions, and somehow appreciate every moment while doing it.

Meanwhile, many mothers are quietly drowning in overstimulation, resentment, anxiety, guilt, exhaustion, and nervous system overload.

And honestly? We do not talk nearly enough about how common mom rage actually is.

The first few weeks after bringing a baby home to your apartment in the Bronx or your house in Westchester are a blur. Between the sleepless nights, the constant feedings, and the overwhelming shift in your identity, it’s normal to feel like you’re on an emotional rollercoaster.

Many new parents experience a period of weepiness and exhaustion known as the "baby blues." But for others, those feelings don't go away—they get heavier. As a perinatal mental health therapist in New York, one of the most common questions I hear is: "Is this just normal new-mom stress, or is it something more?"