We’ve all seen the pictures: the soft lighting, the peaceful nursing, the quiet bonding. But what about the moments where you’re clenching your jaw so hard it aches? Or when the sound of the dishwasher being loaded "wrong" feels like a personal attack?

If you’ve found yourself feeling a sudden, white-hot fury that seems to come out of nowhere, I want you to hear this first: You are not a bad mom. You aren't "crazy." And you are definitely not alone.

What you’re feeling is likely postpartum rage, and it’s a lot more common than our social media feeds let on.

If you are a new parent in New York—whether you’re navigating the busy streets of the Bronx or the quiet hills of Ithaca—you’ve likely experienced a "what if" moment.

What if I trip while carrying the baby down the stairs? What if the bathwater is too hot? What if I accidentally hurt my child?

For many, these thoughts are fleeting. But for others, these intrusive thoughts about the baby become loud, repetitive, and terrifying. When these thoughts start to dictate your day, it’s important to understand the difference between standard "new parent nerves" and Postpartum OCD symptoms.