Searching for a therapist can feel overwhelming.

However, searching for a therapist after a traumatic birth can feel near impossible.

Maybe you’ve spent hours scrolling through therapist profiles and wondered who actually understands your experience.

Maybe you’ve even tried therapy previously but felt like you were encouraged to “focus on the healthy baby” or “be grateful everything turned out okay.”

Maybe you keep asking if your birth was traumatic enough to constitute therapy.

It’s not on you to have to convince your therapist that your experience mattered.

“Everyone keeps asking when they’re finally going to meet the baby… so why am I dreading going?”

If you’ve recently had a baby, you may have noticed something confusing.

You used to enjoy family gatherings.

Now, even the thought of packing up your baby for a birthday party, holiday, family barbecue, or cookout makes your stomach tighten.

You replay every possible scenario in your mind.

Will the baby nap?

What if they cry the entire time?

What if someone wants to hold them and I don’t want them to?

What if they get overstimulated?

What if everyone thinks I’m being overprotective?

Then you catch yourself wondering…

“Why is this so hard for me?”

If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone.

As a maternal mental health therapist, I hear this from new moms all the time.

The journey through pregnancy and new parenthood is a rollercoaster, right? It's filled with incredible love, but also a tidal wave of emotions and demands. If you're a new parent in New York (or expecting!), you know it can be a lot. As a perinatal mental health therapist, I see firsthand how tough it is for moms, dads, and caregivers to actually ask for help, even when they're truly struggling.